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“When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change.”  ~ Marie F. Mongan

Birth. Arguably, the most natural, inspiring, amazing, emotional and life altering event we can experience as people. The Rose Diaries were created by a hypnobirthing mum simply to capture and share other beautiful births, whether you are expecting, have recently experienced a hypnobirth or simply want to read the birth stories of other mothers.

Within these pages we hope to enlighten and most importantly prove that birth does not have to be the frightening, painful and terrible experience the media likes to portray. Instead it can be a beautiful, empowering, fantastic experience that women were perfectly designed to undergo and even enjoy.

Let us prove it to you, browse the diary and be inspired

 

Maternity Myth Buster: things you CAN do during pregnancy

Life sure changes as soon as you see the blue line on the pregnancy test. You’re instantly concerned with a whole host of things you just can’t do anymore. Whether you planned for your pregnancy or it was an unexpected surprise, one thing is for sure, pregnancy is certainly life changing.

Yet, despite what Facebook, friends and old-school fact sheets might tell us, we don’t have to cut out all the best bits. Being pregnant is anything but a jail sentence. This is a time to enjoy and treasure with those closest to you. With a few tweaks to your weekly agenda, pregnancy is merely but a wonderful aspect of your existing way of living.

So. Ditch those dictating guidebooks. You don’t necessarily need to listen to your endearing great aunt (twice removed) who thinks she knows best. Let’s bust some maternity myths together. Here are five things you can do during pregnancy, that will definitely make life more liveable.

Myth Buster #1: You can exercise

Take things steady. So long as you don’t go from 0 to 100 as soon as you see the beautiful blue lines, you’ll be fine to exercise. Regular running, yoga, aerobics: it’s all good.

If you love to take part in fast-paced, or adrenaline-fuelled sports, speak with your doctor or midwife. Chances are, it won’t be something you’ll have to rule out entirely.

Several pregnant women exercising with ball in gym

Myth Buster #2: You can eat prawns

So raw shellfish is a no-no. We’re sure your midwife has told you that from Day Dot. Just think off all the harmful bacteria that can cause viruses and food poisoning and gawd knows what will happen. Shell fish. A definite no-no. Don’t question it.

But if you’re craving a prawn curry from your favourite Indian restaurant, you’re in luck, lady. So long as those prawns have met heat and have had a thorough cooking, they’re all yours. You gotta get your seafood kicks some place, right?

Myth Buster #3: You can eat chocolate

So your best friend told you that chocolate contains caffeine, and you should definitely give a swerve during pregnancy. Note from one mother to another: you need chocolate to survive pregnancy (and parenting), and it’s perfectly safe. Trust us.

You do need to eat the stuff in moderation, but research has shown chocolate can even reduce the chances of pregnant mothers suffering from preeclampsia. That’s right. Medically proven. Get the Galaxy in.

Myth Buster #4: You can have sex

We’re not sure whether this one was decided by the boys or the gals. If you’re tired and can’t cope, just go with it. Sex is off the cards. We’ve got your back.

But, if you want to have fun between the sheets you’re worried about any health issues that may arise… forget it. It’s perfectly safe to have sex while pregnant. Enjoy.

Myth Buster #5: You can sleep when you need to

In today’s day and age there seems to be a relentless pressure on women to keep going while their carrying their child.

Stop.

Your body is (literally) making a human. That’s tiring business. And while it’s completely normal, it’s absolutely essential that you rest as and when you need to. The old, ‘I’m pregnant’ line? Use it. It’s yours. And rightly so.

Pregnant woman lying in bed sleeping

Would you consider a football inspired baby name?

Baby names are always such an emotive topic and one of the UK’s most unpopular baby names could be about to make a comeback – thanks to England’s World Cup success. ‘Gareth’ was ranked 117 in the popularity charts in 1996 – the year England reached the semi-finals of the European Championships.

Young expectant mother with letter blocks spelling name on her pregnant belly

But following Gareth Southgate’s infamous penalty blunder which saw them miss out on a place in the final, it had plunged to 1,903 by 2016, with just a handful of tots given the name each year.

However, the England manager’s success so far has seen a sharp revival in interest in the name, with almost two thirds (65 per cent) of parents believing it will make a comeback thanks to the World Cup.

Fittingly, the Welsh name means ‘gentle’ and was first made popular by a legendary ‘brave and modest’ knight in King Arthur’s court. Gareth definitely seems to have a more relationship and gentle approach to his management so maybe this is true.

The study, by ChannelMum.com, found around one in 14 children currently have a football-inspired name – but 84 per cent of parents think more babies will now be given a moniker based on the Three Lions players.

More than one in 10 of the parents polled who are currently expecting even admitted they are now considering a footie name for their baby. How about you?

Picture showing pregnant woman with question marks on belly

Picture showing pregnant woman with question marks on belly

How much sleep do new parents get in the first year of their baby’s life

One thing that is joked about when you are pregnant is trying to sleep while you can but how much sleep do new parents really get in the first year of a baby’s life?

Pregnant woman lying in bed sleeping

Amazingly, new parents will steal just four hours and 44 minutes of sleep in an average night during the first year of their baby’s life, it has emerged. That means in their tot’s first 12 months, exhausted mums and dads will sleep 59 per cent less than the recommended eight hours a night, losing the equivalent of 50 nights of kip. It also emerged a typical parent spends 54 minutes per day trying to get their baby to sleep, adding up to almost 14 days in their first year.

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More than two thirds of British parents believe they have got into arguments with their partner purely as a result of their baby’s poor sleep habits. Steve Reid, CEO and Co-Founder for sleep technology brand Simba, which commissioned the study, said: “As a new parent myself, the fallout from sleeplessness as a parent can be overwhelming and can push you to the limits, which is why we’ve been meticulous in crafting the new Simba Hybrid® Cot Mattress. “Sleep nourishment, plays a vital role in the recuperation, growth, immune system, brain development and learning of a child and having put the cot mattress through rigorous independent testing, the results speak for themselves. “Nine out of 10 babies fall asleep faster on a Simba, with three out of four sleeping longer too – gifting parents with a much-needed additional hour of sleep every night. “When your baby sleeps well, you sleep better and that sets everyone up for the day. “Investing in the right mattress is just as important for babies as it is for adults.” Sixty-four per cent look back on their first year as parents and are ‘amazed’ they were able to function through it all as well as they did. In those early months, one third of new parents believe warm milk is the best remedy for settling a restless baby. Thirty two per cent found their little one slept best when they were rocked to sleep in their arms, and one in five got their baby a comfort blanket to keep them cosy while they snoozed.

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TOP 20 WAYS TO SEND A BABY OFF TO SLEEP

1. Warm milk

2. Sticking to routines

3. Gentle rocking motion

4. Dummy/Pacifier

5. Give them a warm bath

6. Comfort blanket

7. Reading

8. Gentle bouncing

9. Singing

10. Give them a favourite toy

11. Play with my baby as much as possible during the day to tire them out

12. Calming music

13. Ambient noise – e.g. hairdryers, washing machines, turning on the hoover

14. Driving them around

15. Baby massage

16. Children’s TV

17. Putting them in hiking pack or pram and walking for miles

18. Reducing eye contact before bed

19. Putting them outside in the fresh air

20. Scenting a tissue/fabric with fragrance near the bed

5 reasons why it is great to be pregnant in the cold weather

We’re into March. You’d be forgiven for thinking that spring would be well on the way. Yet, The Beast from the East has hit the UK causing minus temperatures and a whole manor of day-to-day disruptions.

When you’re all stuck inside, a few months gone, living off the remnants of your freezer, tinned goods, and half a loaf of bread, watching your milk seemingly evaporate into the snowy abyss, the cold weather situation can be quite stressful.

That said, while the snowstorm of 2018 has been likened to our coldest winter of 1963, generally speaking, cold weather in Britain is typically tame and mostly tolerable. Cold weather can, in fact, be as much of a blessing as a bind during pregnancy. Flipping the thermometer, is there really anything worse than carrying baby in sweltering summer heats with swollen ankles?

If you’re pregnant this winter, look beyond the hindrance of our recent snow days, and celebrate the little conveniences cold weather can bring. Here’s our five reasons why it’s great to be pregnant in the cold weather.

  1. Hibernation

While snow days can cause mayhem inside the home, during pregnancy they do encourage you to take much-needed time out, away from the hustle and bustle of daily life. Relax. Treat your pregnant self! Put your feet up, get a cup of cocoa, and indulge in a paperback.

  1. Relieve those swollen ankles

Sadly, many pregnant ladies do suffer with swollen ankles. While it isn’t possible to banish the symptom, due to your body’s insistence on retaining water, at least the cooler weather is soothing rather than irritating. Another perk? Unlike the summer months, winter fashion means your ankles needn’t be on show if you don’t want them to be.

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  1. It is always nap time

Thanks to daylight saving time, and winter daylight hours, it’s always naptime in winter. When you and your bump are exhausted, you can guarantee bedtime is never too far away.

  1. Body temp bliss

Increased blood flow, increased metabolism… ergo increased body heat. When pregnant, we are less likely to feel the cold. But, not only that, winter is all about layers. Feeling cold? Layer up. Feeling flushed? Take a layer off. Winter just works with pregnancy body temps. Plus, with all the winter wear, disguised by big knits and fur-lined coats, you’re less likely to have your bump touched by strangers. Win-win.

  1. Food, glorious food!

Which mum-to-be really wants to be tucking into a salad every day during pregnancy? No, give us hearty dishes. Casseroles, homemade pies, chilli, roasted vegetables, oven-baked potatoes, soup. And lots of post-Christmas treats, of course. Comfort food is the way to go.