Win a Hotmilk Charm Nursing Nightie worth £45.95 with The Rose Diaries

We are firm believers that pregnancy should be celebrated and mums and mums to be should ALWAYS be comfortable and feeling good about themselves. This is why we are giving our readers the chance to win a Charm Nightie from Hotmilk worth £45.95.


We love that Hotmilk is designed by mothers, for mothers. Hotmilk offers premium product at accessible prices and their philosophy is to celebrate and empower women via a fresh, creative approach.  Their goal is to create an exquisitely sophisticated nursing lingerie brand and make new mums feel sexy and empowered ….. we really love that!

When you have had a baby, what you are wearing to bed is sometimes last on your list of priorities but if you are breastfeeding you need something comfortable and practical for those night feeds, without feeling frumpy and unattractive.

The Charm Nightie is therefore perfect! We are told that it is “soft and comfortable and will grow with you up to three cup sizes, perfect for when your milk comes in and the answer to holding your breast pads in place throughout the night due to the structured shelf support inside.  The cream cotton base with a soft feminine floral print and 5% stretch make this the ultimate nursing nightie”



  • The perfect gift in easy sizing
  • Side sling for discreet feeding and shape on A-D cups
  • A Frame on DD-G cups for added support and modesty
  • Multi sized to grow up to 3 cup sizes as you grow
  • Elasticated shelf support on the under bust to ensure support all night long
  • Stretchy fabric allows for your changing body shape
  • Easy one handed drop down cups for breastfeeding

So would you like to win one? We are delighted to offer one of our lucky readers the chance to win one of these fabulous nursing nighties from Hotmilk and all you need to do is enter by clicking the Rafflecopter link below. Good luck!

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The Prize: Hotmilk Charm Nightie RRP £45.95
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End Date 11/07/2016 at 12am


Positive birth affirmations (that don’t make you cringe)

A few years ago, we wrote a post about birth affirmations and how hypnobirthing suggests repeating your affirmations regularly throughout the last few months of pregnancy to prepare yourself for the safe arrival of your baby. If you find you have fears and concerns about birthing your baby, using affirmations can help to dispel these.

I found some of the affirmations made me cringe, let’s not mention the suggestion that “My cervix is like a rosebud, ready to open” but I have revisited some of the positive birth affirmations that assisted me and that I was comfortable saying out loud.

Positive birth affirmations that don't make you cringe

I trust my body to grow my baby, and I trust my body to birth my baby.

I feel confident. I feel safe. I feel secure.

My baby is healthy and innately knows when to begin labor.

I am proud of my body and I trust it to birth my baby.

Every contraction brings me closer to our baby.

The power and intensity of your contractions cannot be stronger than you, because it is you.

My mind has released all fears and trusts birth.

Birth is safe for me and my baby.

This is what my body was designed for and my body knows how to give birth.


We previously said that choosing the right affirmation for you is what will make them work. It is good to choose the ones that you are comfortable with, or write your own but whichever ones you choose, you just need to believe in them.




Self taught hypnobirthing – Jenni’s story

We often hear stories about hypnobirthing classes but what about self taught hypnobirthing, is it as effective? We are therefore delighted to share Jenni’s story about her experience of hypnobirthing during her pregnancy and birth of baby Lucas.

Can you teach yourself hypnobirthing

When I was pregnant I was adamant that I didn’t want any pain relief during labour, including gas and air. I wanted to be at the birth fully without medications impairing my mind. I also wanted to have a water birth in a maternity unit. To prepare myself I listened to hypnobirthing cds whilst I fell to sleep at night, joined an aquanatal class and prenatal yoga.

Both the aquanatal and pre natal yoga helped to increase strength and stamina needed for carrying the extra weight and for when I went into labour. They also helped the flexibility of muscles that become weaker during pregnancy. The poses during yoga released my tension and any anxiety I was feeling. The breathing exercises also transferred into helping throughout labour. The yoga class also involved sound work and massage which relieved tension and aches as well as preparing for labour. Aquanatal exercises really helped with my pelvic floor muscles.

I looked into local hypnobirthing classes but there was no way I was going to pay the ridiculous amount they were asking and also due to my job I may have had to miss some due to my shifts. I downloaded a couple of apps but didn’t think much of them. In the end I purchased a set of 3 CDs from for just under £20.  CD 1 ‘Relaxation for a Gentle Birth – Colour and Calmness’ helps you prepare for birth and give you optimism and a positive outlook. CD 2 ‘Fear Release before Birth – Confidence and Power’ shows you how to release your fears and achieve the birth that you want. CD 3 ‘More Relaxations for a Natural Birth – Peace and Relaxation’ gives you four further deep relaxations for variety. I think the idea of CDs is to listen to them and meditate during the day as well as putting them on at bedtime but I only used them in bed. I fell to sleep to one each night and if I woke during the night which happened often in the third trimester I would pop it back on to relax me back into slumber land. I can still remember me lying in bed, letting go of any fears and imagining my cervix (sorry for over sharing) opening easily as that is exactly what the female body was made to do. I have a rubbish memory so the CD obviously had an impact as that is pretty much what it said.

As we got nearer to the due date and Lucas wasn’t showing any signs of making a move my midwife offered me a sweep. As I didn’t really want any interference I declined it. Once I got to 41 weeks I knew I had to say yes so I had a sweep but nothing  happened. At this point my anxiety was increasing, I was begging Lucas to get moving and I was crying in panic over the thought of being induced and having to go to a different hospital that I had planned on.

2 days before I got to 42 weeks, I was induced (Feb 14th, Happy Valentines Day) in a hospital I didn’t want to be in. I stayed overnight without D as it wasn’t a maternity unit.  D returned in the morning and my labour pains started to increase. I was vomitting every time I tried to eat or drink. I think D would agree that I wasn’t in the best of moods. At about 3pm my waters broke naturally and we were taken up to the labour unit. Luckily the birthing pool was free and I was offered it. This turned my labour around. The little plan I had in my head throughout pregnancy was coming together. I took CD 3 with me, planning on using it during labour but I ended up being quite happy with Smooth FM so I didn’t ask the midwife to put it on. I loved the pool and I loved our midwives (1 qualified and 1 student). The midwives kind of left D and I to it, just checking on us, which was exactly what I wanted. The water relaxed me so much, the midwife put the gas and air next to the pool in case I decided to have some. I loved that the pool helped me feel weightless, the water relaxed me more and I could freely move when I wanted to. I’m happy to say that I didn’t have any pain relief, including gas and air. Lucas was born naturally at 5.40pm and I put that down to the preparation during pregnancy. The breathing exercises I learnt in yoga, the exercises to prepare my body in aqua and the positive thinking from my CDs. I am not going to say it didn’t hurt but it was an incredibly amazing experience.

Jenni blogs all about her family adventures over at if you want to hear more.

Reducing stress during pregnancy

We have recently been introduced to Baby wellness and childcare expert, Angela Spencer, who calls for greater awareness of link between pregnancy stress and health issues in the under 5s. As part of Stress Awareness Month (April 2016), Angela Spencer – creator of the Babyopathy wellness programme  – has called for higher awareness of the links between pre-natal maternal stress, and its impact on cognitive development and psychopathology, both during pregnancy and after birth.

Angela says: “Many people are unaware that stress levels naturally become amplified in pregnancy, as our bodies are out under increasing pressure thanks to an influx of hormones. When we are stressed our bodies produce cortisol, ‘the stress hormone’, which causes the fight or flight response and is part of our human nature. A certain amount of cortisol is needed during pregnancy to pass on the natural instincts that we all have. However, too much stress and too much cortisol raises a risk of health problems in your unborn baby.”

Reducing stress in pregnancy

Angela has some top sensory tips to reduce stress during pregnancy and many resonate with the relaxation tips that are found in hypnobirthing.

A sip and a sniff

Aromatherapy can be used safely during pregnancy if products have been developed especially for pregnancy or you are using recommended oils in a vapouriser etc. If you have to travel a lot for your work, or use the trains and underground, it can quickly cause you to feel nauseous or faint. Angela recommends keeping a bottle of lemon essential oil in your bag (as well as a bottle of water to sip) so that you can waft it under your nose to give you an instant mood and energy lift and fight nausea.

  1. Music is food for the soul

Music is one of my favourite sensory ‘tools’ – it can make you happy, it can make you cry, it can help your digestion and it can help you relax. Setting aside a time in the evening each day to play some relaxing music and just sit and absorb it will not only help you to de-stress but from about 17 weeks your baby is able to hear through the womb and will recognize familiar tones and rhythms once born so you are already setting the foundations of a ‘bedtime’ routine

  1. Just breathe

Meditation or mindfulness is a growing trend in managing stress that Angela thoroughly recommends trying to pursue. However, when you are busy and already feeling stressed and pressured some people find it difficult to find the time. She suggests, when feeling stressed and overwhelmed just take a moment for a few deep breaths – complete lungs full of air breathed in for a count of 5 and out for a count of 5 just to re-balance you.

  1. Crystals are a girl’s best friend

Move over diamonds, there’s a new rock in town! Rose quartz is the ‘mother’ of all crystals when it comes to pregnancy. It has a loving, protective energy during pregnancy (and childbirth) and is powerful in healing during stressful times. Many underestimate the power of crystals, and this is one of my favourites. There are some beautiful polished crystal bracelets available now that will work to combat your stress levels during pregnancy.

  1. A walk in nature

The biophilia hypothesis is our inbuilt connection with nature and how this can nurture wellbeing (and aid development and healing). Just a 10 minute walk immersed in nature, a walk along the riverbank or in amongst trees, can have a direct affect on our wellbeing reducing stress and improving our mood. If the sun is shining you get the added benefit of some much needed vitamin D as many of us have a deficiency of this essential vitamin.

Did you find yourself becoming stressed during pregnancy? What techniques did you use?